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When engaging with others in dialogue or debate, consider the following basic principles and practices:
- Practice active listening, instead of thinking only about what you are waiting to say next.
- Speak for yourself, and let others speak for themselves.
- Instead of putting words in another person’s mouth, ask the other person to clarify: “What did you mean?”
- Try asking genuine questions, rather than only rhetorical questions.
- Seek a fulsome understanding of the other person’s point of view. Sometimes disagreement is based on an incomplete or misunderstanding of the another’s actual point of view.
- Respond to the thread of a conversation before starting a new thread. Building on ideas enables a dialogue to go deeper.
- Practice the ability to disagree with an idea without attacking the speaker.
- Belittling, humiliating comments are major impediments to dialogue.
- Try to avoid “conformity bias” and “group-think.”
- Avoid cutting off dialogue prematurely, but consider taking a break to lower the temperature.
- Pay attention to sharing speaking time and not repeating ideas.
- Everyone shares responsibility for a productive dialogue, even if there is a designated “facilitator.”
Be Mindful of Your Words
- Analogies and metaphors can be helpful but are never perfect.
- Oversimplifying complex issues can aggravate and deepen differences.
- Highly inflammatory language can cause people to stop listening.
- Generalizing formulations about an individual or a group of people, such as “you always…” or “all __ think that…” are probably untrue.
- Lengthy speeches or monologues are antithetical to productive dialogue.
Recognize Diversity and Practice Inclusion
- Communication styles are not uniform; these differences might be socially conditioned, such as physical proximity, volume of speech, pauses.
- Sharing a language does not always mean equivalent levels of fluency.
- Words convey different meanings to different individuals, even when they share a common language. Try asking: “How are you using the word ___?”
- Because ideas from multiple perspectives and knowledge domains can deepen and broaden understanding of complex issues, seek to make connections between diverse ideas.
Explore More Resources:
UBC Statement on Respectful Environment for Students, Faculty and Staff.
President’s message to the UBC Community on Respectful Debate
Academic Calendar (Vancouver) – Policies and Regulations – Academic Freedom
UBC Resources and Supports for Respectful Debate (pdf)
Respectful Dialogue and Debate: Principles and Practices (pdf)