Pride at UBC: Callan McDonald

Callan McDonald is a queer 2nd year Arts Major (currently undeclared), who is a recent immigrant to Canada, making Vancouver their home. In their free time Callan loves spending time with friends and exploring their new home city.

What does Pride mean to you?

Pride to me is ultimately a protest. It started out of anger, frustration, and a desire to see a better day. It started with Marsha P Johnson and Sylvia Rivera, and so many others that risked and gave their lives so we could have what we have today.

I know Pride is now a celebration, and an expression of who we are as people, but I believe that we should always remember who paved the way for us and not discredit their sacrifice.

What impact has Pride had on you and your community?

I’m a queer black person of colour, which means that I am a part of a more marginalized group in the LGBTQ+ community. A part of me feels that queer black voices are often ignored in favour of cis, white, gay male voices. They are often the faces of Pride, and while I am not discrediting anything they have been through, they are ultimately less oppressed in comparison to me. I have read many articles which discuss how many of the advancements made in terms of ‘LGBTQ+ rights’ benefit only one small subset of queer people.

Pride, ultimately for me, is bittersweet. I sometimes don’t think Pride is for black queer people even though Pride wouldn’t exist without us. Pride has had a negative impact on the black queer community in recent years. Especially this year when Black Lives Matter tried to petition for no police at Pride, and they were seen as making a big deal out of nothing. I believe that’s why March on Pride in Vancouver happened.

I could be wrong, and there may be other black queer folx that disagree with me. But in my defense, every time I saw Pride on TV growing up, I barely saw any black people.

How do you celebrate Pride?

I’m not celebrating Pride this year, but it wasn’t a choice that I made. I’m at my parents’ place for the summer, and my parents are not accepting of my identity. So, they would not allow me to attend. Typically, my friends would have a small Pride party, or dress in colours that matched our identities’ flags. A lot of the time for young queer kids in unaccepting homes, you have to make your own Pride. And that’s what I did, and it’s what I will always do.

Is Pride important to you? Share your thoughts with us by tweeting our multi-campus accounts @EquityUBCV / @EquityUBCV.

Adrian Fischer grew up in Canada at a time when LGBTQ2SIA+ mentors were hard to come by. He was fortunate to build an international career, largely in arts and entertainment management, working with many talented and supportive members of our community. Some of his proudest moments have come from advocating for LGBTQ2SIA+ employees at Disney and with other employers. Adrian is the Managing Director, Campus Experience at UBC’s Vancouver campus.

When I was coming out in my late teens and early twenties, I wrestled with the concept of being a “proud” gay man. What was I proud of?  What had I accomplished? No doubt pride can be seen simply as the opposite of shame, but that didn’t occur to me at the time since I had never felt ashamed of who I was.

“I had never felt ashamed of who I was. Shy, perhaps, but not ashamed.”

A few years later, I found myself living in San Francisco during the height of the AIDS crisis and witnessed our community’s outpouring of love and support for each other. Now that is something to be proud of. Today, in spite of all the great progress that has been made, there are still plenty of homophobic parents, school bullies, community groups and others. Many LGBTQ2SIA+ people growing up still face difficult challenges coming to terms with their own identity.

“Through Pride, we share the joy of being who we are, the joy of being part of our community, and letting the next generation know that that they can be joyful too.”

Celebrating Pride in recent years has, for me and my husband, been a bit of low-key event. We’ve moved several times, which makes it more difficult to be deeply connected with the community. Plus, we tend to be home-bodies anyway! Prior to moving to Vancouver last fall, we would celebrate by attending one of the major California parades in San Francisco, Los Angeles or San Diego, and spending time with close friends. I do have fond memories of marching with the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus in the San Francisco parade when I lived there – what an amazing feeling of community and empowerment!

How will you be celebrating Pride this year? Is Pride important to you? Share your thoughts with us by tweeting our multi-campus accounts at @EquityUBCV or @EquityUBCV!

A group of students, faculty and staff walked into a (global) lounge.

They drank lots (of tea) and ate lots (of pie), got a little rowdy and laughed out lot as they thought out loud about what it means to live in a diverse community with others.

But the conversation was no joke (though it was about humour).

“Can we afford to joke? And can we afford not to?” read the title of the 2-hour evening event, a special edition in the Chat and Chai dialogue series, organized by UBC Vancouver’s Muslim Students Association. The dialogue was co-facilitated by Aftab Erfan, UBC’s Director of Dialogue and Conflict Engagement. It was organized in response to a familiar dilemma:

In many cultures, humour plays a special role in creating human connection, raising difficult issues in a light way, and helping communities get through tough times. Yet, in a diverse environment such as UBC campus, joking can get us into trouble: what is funny to some people is offensive and deeply hurtful to others. How do we find and navigate the line between laughable and inappropriate in our interactions in the UBC community?

The group came together not to give definitive answers to this question (we’re afraid no definitive answers exist), but to explore the topic in an open way, allowing every person to actually say what they think (and to change their mind), even if that meant we disagreed with each other.

The first half of the evening was spent in small group conversations. Participants told each other stories of how they were positively and negatively impacted by humour, how they wish other people around them would lighten up and laugh at jokes, or how they wish other people around them would be sensitive enough to know what is and isn’t funny. Some told stories about departments on our campus where publicly told and enacted jokes are known to have wreaked havoc. Many pointed out the difference between a publicly told joke and a privately told joke. Some argued that jokes play a different a function depending on the make-up of the group they are told in and depending on who is telling the joke – whereas others wondered why that should make a difference. Some pointed out that power plays a role in how jokes are told and received, and suggested that perhaps it is particularly jokes told across power differentials that run the risk of being inappropriate.

The second half of the evening was spent in a large group of about 50 people, using a dynamic facilitation technique that encouraged people to move in the space and show their agreement and disagreement with the views of others by literally walking closer or further from them. As the group moved about we fairly quickly found ourselves divided into two “sides”, which then had a structured debate with each other. The first side argued that when it comes to humour it is the intention that matters, and as long as intentions of the speaker are good, we should receive humour as constructive, recognizing that we would live in a boring and serious world if people stop joking lest they offend someone! The second side argued that it is not the intention of the humour that matters, but its impact. They cited many examples of good intentioned humour, or even unintended humour, which had been hurtful – not to mention the ways in which humour in the form of parody or irony (“oh, it was just a joke”) is often used to cover up for the damage that it is doing in perpetuating oppressive views such as sexism, racism, islamophobia, homophobia etc. (If you looked around the room as people passionately took turns arguing for these two sides, you would recognize a secondary pattern worth noting here: the first side was made up primarily of men, the second side almost entirely of women. We all had to pause and ask ourselves: ‘What is that all about?’).

At the end of the evening we did not declare a winning side (that was never the plan! In fact, we realized after a while that the two sides were saying almost the exact same things) but the group was invited to share any new insights that they were taking with them from the dialogue. Here is a summary of insights that emerged, either before people left the room or reflected in the evaluation survey that followed:

• I need to become more ‘educated’, more sophisticated in the way I use humour and respond to it, particularly in so far as humour can shield prejudice.
• I realize that what we are looking for when we are joking is human connection, and it is the human connection that needs to be prioritized. I need to err on the side of caution when I joke in order to take better care of human connections.
• I would rather be in conversation with people different from me even if I occasionally get hurt by their jokes, than to not be in conversation at all. We can’t let perfection be the enemy of good.
• Even though the conversation did not change my mind, it opened my eyes to the other “side” because they had some good arguments I hadn’t thought of.
• The conversation illustrated how polarizing values and ideas can be on a campus but that there is a lot of common ground if people are willing to listen and talk rationally.
• This was totally different from a class discussion because as students we don’t get to side with our favourite opinion in class. Here we were able to say what we really think. It was less formal, more engaged and more open.
• As a staff member it was very insightful for me to witness and participate in a discussion that centered student’s experiences and views. I really appreciated the opportunity to talk frankly with students, faculty and other staff members.
• As a faculty member, I want to say how valuable I found this conversation. Partly for the topic, but more so for the ability to talk with students outside a classroom setting. Mostly if I talk to students it is in classes, and there is a power dynamic there that didn’t exist at this event. It was great to talk to students more like a peer, to hear what they really think without them fearing anything because I am not their professor.
• These kinds of training and conversation will improve my future interactions and makes me want to become more involved in the UBC community.

Stay tuned for future unusual dialogues events in collaboration between the Equity and Inclusion Office and student groups.

Read more: http://viti.ca/blog/ubc-chat-chai/

This Friday, I’ll be attending one of my favourite annual events, Q-munity’s annual breakfast for the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia (IDAHOT).  The breakfast is an opportunity for UBC to connect to the work of organizations and activists from across Britsh Columbia and to share in the stories of the rich and vibrant work that is being done.

May 17, 2017 marks the 12th annual International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia (IDAHOT). Over the next week, the realities of the violent and discriminatory situations faced by sexual and gender minorities is brought to light.

Established in 2004 to align with the World Health Organization’s decision in 1990 to declassify homosexuality as a mental disorder, IDAHOT is a key date for LGBTQI communities to mobilize on a global scale.

IDAHOT focuses on drawing the attention of decision makers, the media, the public, opinion leaders and local authorities to the ongoing discrimination faced by lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex people, and all those who do not conform to majority sexual and gender norms.

While many cities have been supportive of IDAHOT, there are many that continue to oppose it in ways that strengthen the resolve of the community to drive the fight for rights of sexual and gender
minorities. May 17 is thus a celebration of courage, strength and most of all, love

Today is a moment to unite millions of people in support of the recognition of human rights for all, irrespective of sexual orientation, gender identity or expression. Join us in taking action to raise awareness of this significant day and support a global, inclusive community.

– Sara-Jane Finlay, Associate Vice-President, Equity & Inclusion

How You Can Participate

• Check out the events taking place across Canada here
• Be informed by reading key facts and figures about IDAHO